Other's - Help

This is an opinion (just like everything on this space)

There are a lot of "Self-Help" books being written around and it has turned into a full-fledged genre of writing for a lot of people who have great advices, stories and anecdotes to narrate. The problem however, is that the genre has very quickly become saturated and overhyped with everything being generalized and that too in such a way that every self-help books sounds & looks the same at the surface level; sometimes even at the deeper levels of the texts.

Self help has gone far from being a 'getting to know yourself' kind and this shift in perspective of writing makes no sense whatsoever because the genre that was supposed to set itself apart from other genres and was supposed to be a huge middle finger to all the novels/novellas for being stereotypical and monotonous in their approach and now these self help books have itself turned into something of a staple advice, sure-shot insecurity hitting, money making machine of books. The way people talk about it is what drives me nuts further regarding these books because people behave as if the book has all the answers they were looking for and how the advices in the book(s) has changed their way of thinking, living, hell, even breathing for god's sake! At first I thought that the people who mindlessly wrote these books are nuts, but as I unravel further, I realized that the people who bought into the same bullshit through numerous titles are even bigger nutjobs from up there.

That's why, I've decided that I want to write and start a genre called "Other's Help" which can serve as a segment for books that talk about how to help others, because that's one of the main reasons why self-help books became popular, right? So that we can gain enough knowledge about humans and help our fellow humans? Now, I'm just cutting the middleman out and starting a genre in itself that talks about helping other people! Do we or do we not feel like helping other people out when we start reading any kind of self-help books? So, how about we just learn about how to help other people instead of going round in a circle, talking about discovering ourselves first and helping people out later, because we clearly aren't interested or excited about knowing more about ourselves (because if we did, we'd be way better than what we think we are right now)

All I'm saying is that this could turn out to be like a mini revolution in itself, right? To write something that is specifically aimed at making us understand how to help other people because a lot of dimwits are anyways knee deep into other people's business, so might as well give them something that makes their snooping around fruitful. Win - Win, right?

That personal tragedy

A poem by Samyak Shah

Driven by fear
By the people near
Packing up extra strong
For the beating to come

Callous and careless
Now the image isn't spotless
Strangled by my belonging
That's running around the neck

Negativity spikes
Hallelujah, Yikes!
Had it coming on you
Even if its not on their mind

The great feat
Of a great beat
Comes after the bruise
While the attacked cruise

Rightly had it here
Yet my death ain't so near
'coz tortures the lane
On which the world likes to drive

Even if I apologize
They'll still demonize
Saying I'll remain a cheat
Despite the bows and the touched feet

Probably sadistic
The world's animalistic
Taking both the sides
For the advantageous rides

Not being a victim
In the one-sided system
While the voice echoes wrong
Accusations roar like the bloody king kong

Yeah they're special
'coz they're a filled vessel
While the spills don't interrupt
Their filling streak

We get it that you're loved a lot
Kinda like a female Instagram thot
For no good reason the case is open
Justice gets served and the bones broken

Isn't equality meant for both sides
Where's that gone amidst your victim strides
Okay I get it I made a mistake
For how long for forgiveness will I beg?

It's from actions not words is what you said
Au contraire mon frere you walked into a trap that you only laid
Welcome to your tape 'coz hubba you're screwed
Congratulations, 'coz the score's now a deuce

New year, New me?

“Dead people receive more flowers than the living because regret is stronger than gratitude”

- Anne Frank

I firmly believe that the world might just be beginning to fix itself from the issue that it has been long suffering. The issue of “The ‘Should have’s and The ‘Could have’s”

‘Should have’s and ‘Could have’s

A lifestyle, a way of living that is filled and fueled with regret, hope of vindication & redemption, turning our lives into the kind of lives we’ve grown up watching in movies wherein everybody around you doubts you and you prove them wrong and show them their place and everyone begins to feel guilty for having mocked you and underestimated your skills and what not.

That’s not how the world works apparently.

Alright, I’m here to break your bubble and inform you without even an iota of inconvenience that we cannot always get our way with everything and no matter how butthurt you feel, it ain’t gonna change just to massage your ego.

This is the perfect time for you to begin bringing in the change as you’re anyways parading the whole ‘New year New me’ hype train.

So, this year…

I dare you to not second-guess yourself

I dare you to hold your own self accountable for the things you have in your control

I dare you to live one day without worrying too much about the future or the past

I dare you to not guilt yourself every single second!

I dare you to begin working on your ‘I wish's and  'I could’s

And more than anything,

I dare you ‘To begin living in 2020’ 

(refers to our constant need of staying stuck and to keep on re-living our past mistakes and then feeling guilty and hung up because we feel that if we do not show the world we’re still sad about it, someone or the other is going to see that and is going to make us feel bad about it by reminding us and insulting us with this sentence: ‘So you don’t even feel bad about what you did? Maybe that’s because you it never truly mattered to you, did it?’)

अगर नहीं तोह फिर...

A poem by Samyak Shah

दो दिन की है ख्वाहिश

पल भर का है ख्वाब

हासिल हुआ तोह ख़ुशी

अगर नहीं तोह फिर शराब

लबों से निकलती तारीफ़ उसकी

रात को आते उसी के ख्वाब

हकीकत अगर हुए तोह ख़ुशी

अगर नहीं तोह फिर शराब

आए गुस्सा मुझे

तब रहम करना उसपे जनाब

काबू किया खुद पे तोह ख़ुशी

अगर नहीं तोह फिर शराब

चले जाओगे तोह गिर जायेंगे

फिर उठ न पायेंगे साहब

न बनाया उसे सहारा तोह ख़ुशी

अगर नहीं तोह फिर शराब

चलना किया जब शुरू अकेले

तोह साथ का क्यों देखे ख्वाब

अगर मिल जाए सहारा तोह ख़ुशी

अगर नहीं तोह फिर शराब

To-Be Titled

A poem by Samyak Shah

The end of it all

Was a problem free life

But when problems got over

I realized I hadn't at all lived the life

Chasin' the dreams

Was all that I had wished for

So that peace could prevail

But now the noise seems uncalled for

The end of it all

Worthy of everything

And yet I stand here

Feeling as if I deserve nothing

Chasin' the deadlines

Bogged by the pressures of it

Feels like a treadmill run

'coz I ain't getting nothing for it

Finally, something positive...

A write-up by Samyak Shah

To mean so much to somebody is a different feeling in itself. That position is something that can't exactly be put into words because it's an experience that is riveting and liberating in its own. To be on either of the ends is equally special and applaud worthy. Such an exchange where the giving hand and the receiving hand are at the same level and everything seems to be balanced in a way that it should be.

A bond which gives out and resonates with hopefulness, and everyone unanimously agrees that hope paves way for a stronger and a more positive emotional exchange & dialogue. A concrete path paved from one heart to another, which we all crave more than anything in the world.

Bringing in this exchange requires guts because to be able to withstand damage, especially emotional is not everybody's forte and also, it is the resilience that develops over time with our sensibility and understanding about vulnerability and acceptance of our failures so that our growth extends beyond these events. Believe the experienced when they say that this path is going to take a lot of time because this journey is spread out over a lifetime between two people who wholeheartedly attract positivity for each other.       

I've heard this a lot that 'If you plant positive thoughts, the fruits you shall bore will be positive and if you plant negative thoughts, the fruits shall be negative' and this makes sense in terms of thoughts, not just for ourselves but also for other people and especially the other person.

Don't we all just want peace of mind and harmony?

Joy & F*cks

A post by Samyak Shah

"To be able to not give a f*ck, it doesn't have to be about who respects you; but about whether you respect yourself enough or not" 

Quite frankly, we all know and think that I'm going to go on a long rant about putting yourself first and being happy and what not, right?

Wrong!

Upping the ante, I've dedicated this post to the literal meanings of the two terms in the title: 

JOY and F*CKS

Joy: the feeling of great pleasure and long-term happiness

F*ck: noun/verb used in various phrases to express annoyance, contempt or impatience

What you may/may not know is that joy and f*ck are related even at the level of definition, combine them with our general attitude towards life and we've got ourselves a serious philosophical lesson to learn.

Joy is an elongated period of happiness because if happiness is experience of short bursts of feeling amazing, then joy is nothing but a longer duration of experiencing bursts of feeling amazing. Many of us have a lot of trouble in being and then staying happy to be able to experience joy at its fullest because we feel and think that all good things come to an end and so will this period, which may not be completely false, but that doesn't point out that you can't be experiencing several periods of happiness everyday if not one complete joyous experience (although, it is really up to every individual to decide how elongated does happiness has to be to be able to call it joy)

"Familiarity breeds contempt" - Geoffrey Chaucer 

F*ck has been used too often in the negative manner, which is why it has led to becoming a word that is hated and shoved disgust upon whenever someone uses it. Why? Because people don't always associate with the thing in question, but more with the perception of the thing in question. Then, what's going to happen if we start to think negatively about something? Exactly! It is going to create a negative image in our brains about it.

Joy is long term happiness and Fuck is when we express annoyance, now if we get used to being happy for so long, aren't we going to tip our balance and start getting annoyed because life is going to be sorted enough that we'd not be having any major troubles to overcome, wouldn't that get boring?

Inability

A poem by Samyak Shah

Maybe I can't seem to support
Maybe I'm not the best at being there
Maybe it's a 'take all' attitude
Maybe I wouldn't want to show what all I've got
Maybe that's insecurity
or...
Maybe that's an inability

Probably not good at predicting
Probably not quick to understand
Probably the dimmest despite being the smart one
Probably escaping at the first minute
Probably an instinct
or...
Probably that's an inability

Possibly the worst at showing what's inside
Possibly the best at jumping to conclusions
Possibly bad at managing things in life
Possibly thinking of deserving the worst
Possibly a mental health hazard
or...
Possibly that's an inability

Believing to become better
Believing to be toxic selectively
Believing that sadism is okay
Believing in two different worlds
Believing might just be giving away empty hope
or....
Believing that's an inability